"Want to go for Steamboat?"
That was a very inviting question indeed.
"Sure, lets have lunch".
Despite the jam on a public holiday we made it to 1 Utama, Johnny's Steamboat. Its a simple basic steamboat set but it can be enhanced by additional orders of seafood or veggies. The dipping sauce is piquant and deliciousl
I love steamboat! Lots of vegetables and rich stock. Homemade is best as we can save a lot by buying our own seafood like large prawns, crab and fish. We can also add our own favourite food into the soup stock.
A healthy alternative to stuffing in fried chicken wings and char koey teow. I love that too but am trying to resist all the fatty stuff.
Heavy Lunch, Light Dinner
Then to Pappa Rich for a light dinner snack. The butter and kaya toast was quite filling and I yielded to the temptation of ice kacang, lots of finely shaved iced with delicious bits of sweet corn, red beans, cendol, cincau, peanut and raisin. Did I detect nutmeg?
No Sugar in my Dessert please!
Is it possible to have dessert without sugar? Yes you can, if you choose shaved ice and fruits and other condiments. At least we can choose not to eat the sweetened red beans, enjoy the raisins and sweetcorn. My parents used to eat cendol without the gula melaka - at least they could still enjoy cendol together with us.
This time I remembered to ask the waiter to serve the palm sugar (gula Melaka) separately. That way I could have only a teaspoon of sugar or so instead of the whole little milk jug full of sugar! Malaysians can really consume a lot of sugar!
Curry Chee Cheong Fun is Delicious!
I had curry chee cheong fun (thinly rolled steamed rice sheets cut like pin wheels, served in dried fried shrimp curry sauce) yesterday for breakfast. Lunch was friend Malay style bihun (rice vermicelli), with prawn, veggies and chillies.
Poor Brown Rice, waiting to be Served
I had been out nearly daily and did not have time to do any marketing or cook. In fact the boiled brown rice had been languishing in the fridge for 2 days. It should be in the freezer. Tomorrow my son can probably have it for lunch with the chicken chop and potato croquettes .
Chicken Soup
Need to buy some organic chicken at Village Grocer. I prefer to make rich clear soup with vegetables - its more satisfying and nutritious. So easy to prepare and always welcome in our home. Brown rice porridge may be nice too.
Chocolate Cake
Thinking of making some chocolate cake for sale at the shop. Should be fun, cold chocolate dessert for visitors and maybe for sale if I manage to make enough. Perhaps I will send them to Min Fes for their dessert menu. Maybe cream puffs once a while if I am in the mood. Its really hard to bake when one is not in the mood. Mistakes will occur sometimes.
Chang Season Again
Today we visited 1 World Hotel, annexed to 1 Utama shopping mall. May visit the Chinese Restaurant there as I saw the traditional Chinese chang advertised. So hard to get genuine halal Chinese chang.
Its a glutinous rice dumpling with lots of delectable stuffing like chicken, oysters, lentils, sweet melon strips, peppercorns, coriander corns, mushrooms and soya sauce. They are wrapped in bamboo leaves and boiled for several hours until soft and fragrant.
Parents still caring for us when they were well in their 80s - when we should be caring for them. Parents never stop caring for their children.
I remember my mom when I think of all the comfort foods. She was such a great cook and would make chang for all of us even when she was over 80 years old. Its very tedious and needs a lot of energy and time.
Thanks mom. for all your sacrifices. Thanks dad for paying for all the food and home expenses all these years. And thanks for agreeing to consume only halal food in the home for over 20 years! Little did you both knew that one day both of you would embrace Islam.
Shukr Alhamdulillah!
Alhamdulillah! All Praise to Allah SWT for His Mercy and Kindness. I am so thankful that our family is indeed so blessed. And we are further enriched by the many friends around us who had given us lot of support and love all these years.
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Monday, May 16, 2011
The Difference between Giving and Taking
Its Allright toTake , Better to Give
Through the years we had been benefitting from the generosity of others - parents, family, friends, peers, employers, managers, writers, leaders etc. Yes, we had been taking from many people through out our lives.
Giving Back
How about giving back? It doesn't mean only financial help or assistance. Some of us may not have that much to spare. However, we can't just say "Oh, I'm not that rich - I cannot help others improve their lives".
We Can! If We Want To!
Its best to give back on a daily basis, in whatever small way we can. Even helping your family is giving back. Giving should be a life long process, not just every now and then, when we feel like it.
It gets Easier with Time!
Give back by caring for others, sharing and giving some moral support. Give advice and your time. Help others to grow, especially in training others to become better at their careers and jobs. Nothing is too small.
Smile! Be Cheerful and Kind
That seems such an easy thing to do, isn't it? Well, not to everyone. Some are just shy and are not comfortable around strangers and people they do not know well. However there are some people do not know how to share. They are not interested to know how others, especially their subordinates feel. Let's not wait for Allah SWT to give us a lesson on manners!
Be Genuinely Concerned
Talk to people, show appreciation to all, including juniors and people who seem lowly to you. Everyone has some goodness and special qualities. They may be so called nobodies but they are a necessary part of the company and part of society.
Respect the Poor and Downtrodden
Its good to be humble. Do not forget the power of the duaa (supplications) of the weak and oppressed. When they ask Allah SWT for blessings for us, their chances of being answered are much higher, insha Allah.
Be Ready to Change
If we are lacking in some ways, its good to reflect on our own attitudes and past behaviour. Is it so hard to make some small changes? We are in constant change.
I remind myself to change even if I cannot make some people change. Yes, be an agent of change. The first step starts with ourselves. No one is perfect so its aright to admit our weaknesses. We are lying to ourselves if we think we do not need to improve. Always room for improvement.
Be Sincere and Natural
Do it naturally and sincerely. You will be amazed that others too will change when you change your attitude towards them.
Everyone is a leader so let us lead with a good intention and ask for Allah's help and guidance to improve ourselves and others. All for His sake.
Through the years we had been benefitting from the generosity of others - parents, family, friends, peers, employers, managers, writers, leaders etc. Yes, we had been taking from many people through out our lives.
Giving Back
How about giving back? It doesn't mean only financial help or assistance. Some of us may not have that much to spare. However, we can't just say "Oh, I'm not that rich - I cannot help others improve their lives".
We Can! If We Want To!
Its best to give back on a daily basis, in whatever small way we can. Even helping your family is giving back. Giving should be a life long process, not just every now and then, when we feel like it.
It gets Easier with Time!
Give back by caring for others, sharing and giving some moral support. Give advice and your time. Help others to grow, especially in training others to become better at their careers and jobs. Nothing is too small.
Smile! Be Cheerful and Kind
That seems such an easy thing to do, isn't it? Well, not to everyone. Some are just shy and are not comfortable around strangers and people they do not know well. However there are some people do not know how to share. They are not interested to know how others, especially their subordinates feel. Let's not wait for Allah SWT to give us a lesson on manners!
Be Genuinely Concerned
Talk to people, show appreciation to all, including juniors and people who seem lowly to you. Everyone has some goodness and special qualities. They may be so called nobodies but they are a necessary part of the company and part of society.
Respect the Poor and Downtrodden
Its good to be humble. Do not forget the power of the duaa (supplications) of the weak and oppressed. When they ask Allah SWT for blessings for us, their chances of being answered are much higher, insha Allah.
Be Ready to Change
If we are lacking in some ways, its good to reflect on our own attitudes and past behaviour. Is it so hard to make some small changes? We are in constant change.
I remind myself to change even if I cannot make some people change. Yes, be an agent of change. The first step starts with ourselves. No one is perfect so its aright to admit our weaknesses. We are lying to ourselves if we think we do not need to improve. Always room for improvement.
Be Sincere and Natural
Do it naturally and sincerely. You will be amazed that others too will change when you change your attitude towards them.
Everyone is a leader so let us lead with a good intention and ask for Allah's help and guidance to improve ourselves and others. All for His sake.
Saturday, May 14, 2011
Nasi Lemak Kopi O TV9
Alhamdulillah! Many thanks to TV9 team for the great interview and air time. It was a very pleasant surprise to find so many people contacting me via FB after watching the program.
Thanks to TV9 Viewers
Thanks to all well wishers who wrote in to support my effort and offer words of encouragement.
I also received quite a number of book orders which I will despatch my by Pos Laju. Courier for overseas orders.
Helping Others to Earn a Little Extra Income
Some schools and invidividuals are also helping me distribute the books. I share a little profit with them. Since the introductory price of RM50 is not much I sometimes only take back my cost. They help me without expecting too much, with a good intention to share the beauty of
covering up with their friends. May Allah SWT accept their good deeds.
Friendly Helpers
Other friends have requested to help me sell my books and some even refused to accept any payment for their hard work of carrying the heavy books all over the place. From last October to May 2011 I had been selling the books at an introductory price of only RM50 excluding postage.
I am very touched by offers by people I hardly know - after reading the book they offer to help me sell my books, using their own time and energy. Another sister even personally approached several shops to sell my books. She managed to sell 30 books within 2 weeks. By helping me she helped me channel part of the takings to help another sister who needed some income.
May Allah SWT reward and bless all of them for their generosity and kindness. May they also obtain the extra rewards when readers change their lives to accept and respect the hijab.
Wonderful Feeling to Cover for Allah
Wearing a headcover and clothes that cover modestly is a wonderful feeling. It only comes when we decide to obey Allah SWT wholeheartedly in that matter.
Not Easy for Change Overnight
Its not easy to make a change but what matters is the sincere intention and the humble and continuous effort to fulfil our obligations. Everything we do eventually benefits us, if not in this life, then in the Hereafter.
Good Things do not come Easy
Good things do not come easy and there can be many distractions and temptations along the way. Somedays we win and some days we lose. When we fall, we must be strong to bounce up again, ready to try again and again.
Muslims must start to make time to write and share
It is my intention to keep on writing and documenting so the future generation can benefit from our effort. I urge Muslims to make time to write about things that matter, ideas and experiences that can help society. We learn so much from other communities. Why are we not giving back?
Thanks to TV9 Viewers
Thanks to all well wishers who wrote in to support my effort and offer words of encouragement.
I also received quite a number of book orders which I will despatch my by Pos Laju. Courier for overseas orders.
Helping Others to Earn a Little Extra Income
Some schools and invidividuals are also helping me distribute the books. I share a little profit with them. Since the introductory price of RM50 is not much I sometimes only take back my cost. They help me without expecting too much, with a good intention to share the beauty of
covering up with their friends. May Allah SWT accept their good deeds.
Friendly Helpers
Other friends have requested to help me sell my books and some even refused to accept any payment for their hard work of carrying the heavy books all over the place. From last October to May 2011 I had been selling the books at an introductory price of only RM50 excluding postage.
I am very touched by offers by people I hardly know - after reading the book they offer to help me sell my books, using their own time and energy. Another sister even personally approached several shops to sell my books. She managed to sell 30 books within 2 weeks. By helping me she helped me channel part of the takings to help another sister who needed some income.
May Allah SWT reward and bless all of them for their generosity and kindness. May they also obtain the extra rewards when readers change their lives to accept and respect the hijab.
Wonderful Feeling to Cover for Allah
Wearing a headcover and clothes that cover modestly is a wonderful feeling. It only comes when we decide to obey Allah SWT wholeheartedly in that matter.
Not Easy for Change Overnight
Its not easy to make a change but what matters is the sincere intention and the humble and continuous effort to fulfil our obligations. Everything we do eventually benefits us, if not in this life, then in the Hereafter.
Good Things do not come Easy
Good things do not come easy and there can be many distractions and temptations along the way. Somedays we win and some days we lose. When we fall, we must be strong to bounce up again, ready to try again and again.
Muslims must start to make time to write and share
It is my intention to keep on writing and documenting so the future generation can benefit from our effort. I urge Muslims to make time to write about things that matter, ideas and experiences that can help society. We learn so much from other communities. Why are we not giving back?
Sunday, May 8, 2011
Train Ride from Kajang to Batu Caves
An unexpected train ride
Some of you may wonder why I am talking about a train ride in Kuala Lumpur. Its a new experience for me - rushing up the stairs trying to catch the train on the other side of the tracks. We were travelling from Kajang to KL Sentral.
The steps were steep and it was not easy trying to balance my overweight handbag and my overnight bag. It only costed us RM3.40 each from Kajang to Batu Caves, the last stop. We were on the way back from a weekend at Jenderami and Yara Center.
Dinner on board the Orient Express
Tonight I was amused to see the Orient Express in the Batu Cave train terminal. The dining coach was brightly lit with lamps decorated with quaint little shades. I saw tourists in there all dressed up, eating their dinner by the windows. The train was stationery along the dusty old railway tracks.
Maybe the train was deliberately timed to stop over so the passengers could have a relaxed and stable dinner without their chicken and drinks sliding all over the dining table! The humble grimey and dusty surroundings seemed a little surreal.
Have you been on the Orient Express?
Just recently I took a pleasant train ride to Singapore. I asked my friend who was a widely travelled tourist guide whether she had been on the Orient Express before. She said yes and I asked her whether it was any improvement from the ordinary passenger trains.
I was quite amused when I recalled her answer " Not much difference actually. The only difference was that people would dress up formally for dinner and food was served in fine China and silverware". She also mentioned that the food was not even impressive or tasty!.
Wrong Perception can create different impressions
I used to imagine the expensive train ride being very luxurious and elegant, with comfortable carriages, chugging all over the romantic countryside of Europe and Russia! Too many Agatha Christie novels during my teenage days!
Moral of the story : Many people and situations are actually very ordinary but it seems special and attractive just because it is something new and different. What is new to us may be actually dull and boring to people who are used to such a way of life. The grass always seem greener on the other side!
Some of you may wonder why I am talking about a train ride in Kuala Lumpur. Its a new experience for me - rushing up the stairs trying to catch the train on the other side of the tracks. We were travelling from Kajang to KL Sentral.
The steps were steep and it was not easy trying to balance my overweight handbag and my overnight bag. It only costed us RM3.40 each from Kajang to Batu Caves, the last stop. We were on the way back from a weekend at Jenderami and Yara Center.
Dinner on board the Orient Express
Tonight I was amused to see the Orient Express in the Batu Cave train terminal. The dining coach was brightly lit with lamps decorated with quaint little shades. I saw tourists in there all dressed up, eating their dinner by the windows. The train was stationery along the dusty old railway tracks.
Maybe the train was deliberately timed to stop over so the passengers could have a relaxed and stable dinner without their chicken and drinks sliding all over the dining table! The humble grimey and dusty surroundings seemed a little surreal.
Have you been on the Orient Express?
Just recently I took a pleasant train ride to Singapore. I asked my friend who was a widely travelled tourist guide whether she had been on the Orient Express before. She said yes and I asked her whether it was any improvement from the ordinary passenger trains.
I was quite amused when I recalled her answer " Not much difference actually. The only difference was that people would dress up formally for dinner and food was served in fine China and silverware". She also mentioned that the food was not even impressive or tasty!.
Wrong Perception can create different impressions
I used to imagine the expensive train ride being very luxurious and elegant, with comfortable carriages, chugging all over the romantic countryside of Europe and Russia! Too many Agatha Christie novels during my teenage days!
Moral of the story : Many people and situations are actually very ordinary but it seems special and attractive just because it is something new and different. What is new to us may be actually dull and boring to people who are used to such a way of life. The grass always seem greener on the other side!
Friday, May 6, 2011
Crazy People on the Road
High Speed Chase
Last week I was involved in a car accident. Saw three cars chasing and trying to overtake each other along MRR2. They were weaving very fast through the heavy traffic, changing from lane to lane, trying to overtake each other.
We can only do so much...
I was in the fast lane minding my own business. Well as much as I could as no driver could drive alone without being aware of what is happening around him or her. We may be careful but not everyone would care about the welfare of other road users.
Life in the fast lane
It was no point in changing lanes as everyone were going quite fast and there was no way to avoid the cars. Its easy enough to stay clear of the fast lane if there were only one mad driver but 3?
Anyway, one of the drivers swerved into the fast lane again, really FAST! All the drivers in front of my car pressed their brakes as quickly as possible. I was anticipating this to happen and managed to keep a fairly safe distance. It was really not possible to slow down as the cars behind me as the momentum was too great.
I kept my foot on the brakes, levelling as hard as possible. Whew! just in time! Stopped really close to the car in front. What a relief!
Bang! What an impact!
Bang! My joy was short lived! A young guy who was probably driving too close and too fast hit the back of my car. I was really irritated by this unnecessary accident. Before I could even get release my seat belt, Another Bang! A second car hit me, by sheer volition as it hit the back of the car behind me. Double impact! Bummer!
An accident waiting to happen!
I got down and saw that my car bumper had broken from its fragile hinge. It hadn't fallen off yet but anything could happen if I started driving. I looked at the car behind me. It could have been a much longer car but I couldn't even figure out the make of the car.
Feeling sorry for the one who hit my car
It was squashed from the front and also from the back. Kind of compacted and mashed in. The 3rd car was equally bad. When I saw the young man's frustration, I felt sorry for him. He was mad at the man who hit him from the back but he expected me to sympathise with him though he hit my car!
Storm Brewing
I did not want to hang around too long as I could sense a storm brewing between the 2 drivers and I was late for work. I told myself I was grateful to be unhurt and only my car bumper needed to be replaced. I do not know how much it would cost as even a small spare part could cost a few hundred ringgit. What more a large bumper!
Local cars are not all that bad!
I am on the other hand quite surprised that my local car was tough enough to withstand the impact of 2 speeding cars on the highway! Alhamdulillah! Its easier to pay for a broken bumper than to replace a broken arm or neck. Where would I go for such special spare parts?
Deliberate Act?
I suspect the 3 drivers could have deliberately caused the accident. A man appeared suddenly and parked his car in front of mine. He actually blocked my path. He asked if I was alright and whether my car had any problems. I said none.
Accomplice?
He then turned his attention to the next driver and started a conversation. I think that man could well be an accomplice. He seemed so at ease and used to such accidents.
I did not want to hang around long enough to find out what would happen next. I did not even want to make a claim as it would waste a lot of time, going to the police station, waiting to make a report, parking the car at some distance and walking all over the place to get things sorted out. Not to mention trying to contact the insurance company and then losing the NCB.
Not worth the trouble
Just not worth the time unless its a major accident. You may find yourself stuck for a whole day and that would be even more costly, not mentioning the stress and stress!
Discipline and Patience
We have to be careful on the road and its better to be slow and steady than be caught in the fast lane with crazy drivers. Driving more slowly and carefully needs discipline and patience so those who can do it are really mature and wise. Of course its really difficult to drive slowly as we always seem to be in a great hurry.
May Allah SWT keep us safe on the road. And may we be safe drivers so others can be safe too.
Last week I was involved in a car accident. Saw three cars chasing and trying to overtake each other along MRR2. They were weaving very fast through the heavy traffic, changing from lane to lane, trying to overtake each other.
We can only do so much...
I was in the fast lane minding my own business. Well as much as I could as no driver could drive alone without being aware of what is happening around him or her. We may be careful but not everyone would care about the welfare of other road users.
Life in the fast lane
It was no point in changing lanes as everyone were going quite fast and there was no way to avoid the cars. Its easy enough to stay clear of the fast lane if there were only one mad driver but 3?
Anyway, one of the drivers swerved into the fast lane again, really FAST! All the drivers in front of my car pressed their brakes as quickly as possible. I was anticipating this to happen and managed to keep a fairly safe distance. It was really not possible to slow down as the cars behind me as the momentum was too great.
I kept my foot on the brakes, levelling as hard as possible. Whew! just in time! Stopped really close to the car in front. What a relief!
Bang! What an impact!
Bang! My joy was short lived! A young guy who was probably driving too close and too fast hit the back of my car. I was really irritated by this unnecessary accident. Before I could even get release my seat belt, Another Bang! A second car hit me, by sheer volition as it hit the back of the car behind me. Double impact! Bummer!
An accident waiting to happen!
I got down and saw that my car bumper had broken from its fragile hinge. It hadn't fallen off yet but anything could happen if I started driving. I looked at the car behind me. It could have been a much longer car but I couldn't even figure out the make of the car.
Feeling sorry for the one who hit my car
It was squashed from the front and also from the back. Kind of compacted and mashed in. The 3rd car was equally bad. When I saw the young man's frustration, I felt sorry for him. He was mad at the man who hit him from the back but he expected me to sympathise with him though he hit my car!
Storm Brewing
I did not want to hang around too long as I could sense a storm brewing between the 2 drivers and I was late for work. I told myself I was grateful to be unhurt and only my car bumper needed to be replaced. I do not know how much it would cost as even a small spare part could cost a few hundred ringgit. What more a large bumper!
Local cars are not all that bad!
I am on the other hand quite surprised that my local car was tough enough to withstand the impact of 2 speeding cars on the highway! Alhamdulillah! Its easier to pay for a broken bumper than to replace a broken arm or neck. Where would I go for such special spare parts?
Deliberate Act?
I suspect the 3 drivers could have deliberately caused the accident. A man appeared suddenly and parked his car in front of mine. He actually blocked my path. He asked if I was alright and whether my car had any problems. I said none.
Accomplice?
He then turned his attention to the next driver and started a conversation. I think that man could well be an accomplice. He seemed so at ease and used to such accidents.
I did not want to hang around long enough to find out what would happen next. I did not even want to make a claim as it would waste a lot of time, going to the police station, waiting to make a report, parking the car at some distance and walking all over the place to get things sorted out. Not to mention trying to contact the insurance company and then losing the NCB.
Not worth the trouble
Just not worth the time unless its a major accident. You may find yourself stuck for a whole day and that would be even more costly, not mentioning the stress and stress!
Discipline and Patience
We have to be careful on the road and its better to be slow and steady than be caught in the fast lane with crazy drivers. Driving more slowly and carefully needs discipline and patience so those who can do it are really mature and wise. Of course its really difficult to drive slowly as we always seem to be in a great hurry.
May Allah SWT keep us safe on the road. And may we be safe drivers so others can be safe too.
Thursday, May 5, 2011
Missing My Parents
Will you miss your parents
when they are gone?
What? You miss your parents? You are not a child anymore - why are you such a baby?
These words may seem common - they may be spoken in earnest, questioning the independance of an individual. Maybe it's a gentle hint for us to grow up and not be so sentimental.
Or are people getting so used to being alone and withdrawn that they have forgotten the warmth and comfort of family life? Was home so unhappy and dull that they want to forget their families?
Which is which?
Do we all still have childhood memories? Happy ones? Sad ones? Only you will know.
Forgive and Let Go of the Past
I guess most of us have a mixture of both, and maybe a bitter sweet relationship with our parents. That's life. We make mistakes all the time, even parents and we will do too as parents ourselves. Live and let live - its alright to still remember old wounds but its better to learn from them. Forgive, maybe we still cannot forget though we sometimes rather prefer to block out every hurt and disappointment of the past.
Jazakallahu Khairan Kathiran
I thank all my friends and even people I do not know well. They showed love, support and concern for me and my family during my difficult times. I received nothing but kind words and even monetary support to pay for the expenses of hospitalization etc. They did not have to do that but they all came even at last minute notice.
Those I could not inform on time apologised for not being there for me. I did not expect anyone to go out of their way for me. I am thankful for the duaas they make for my parents.
Solat Jenazah according to the Sunnah
Many people turned up for solat jenazah of both my parents. It really touched me deeply and words cannot express my appreciation and I thank Allah SWT for giving me help and support in my moments of need. Alhamdulillah!
Losing both parents within a year
I lost my mother during Chinese New Year in 2010. Its was a bitter experience for all of us. Last month I lost my 86 year old father. I was preparing my self for this moment but it still hit me badly, making me remember I cannot be strong and tough all the time.
They were good parents and did what they could, according to their own understanding of their roles and limitations. I appreciate their sacrifices and love which were unconditional. How many people can treat you that way? At least they will not be able to say they would be willing to support and love us for life! Not husbands, wives or lovers!
Work and Obligations
I have to leave my PC to do some work outside my home. Actually I'd rather be sitting in front of my keyboard, spilling out my thoughts, spontaneously as it does lighten the burden of carrying so much grief within.
I was quite busy with work and immersed myself so I would have a quicker recovery time. Just could not write when my thoughts are so scattered, a million things to attend to.
Taking a break
Took a short trip to Singapore with my son just to take a break. I needed a different environment and different people around me to bring me back. Singapore is great where transport is concerned.
Lots of Halal Food
Discovered great halal food in Muslim areas and even in food courts. I enjoyed the fish noodle soup and soto. Good service and the prices are reasonable too. Thanks to my friend Latifah who was an energetic companion. We stayed at Marine Parade and my 'sister' Sally and her husband Kim took us for a lovely dinner at Arab Street. We also went for night sight seeing like real tourists! Actually all the worldly sights do not mean much for a passing traveller of this earthly planet. Just passing through... trying to find the right path.
Aunt Leslie
My last trip to Singapore was over 20 years ago! Miss my aunties and cousins though. I planned to visit my Aunt Leslie but have misplaced her phone no. I feel so bad - been procrastinating to inform her that both my parents have passed awayl
She would be heart broken but worse still - will I be too late! She is a cancer survivor, a beautiful lady, well in her late 60s by now. A great cook and mother, who raised her 3 children on her own and sent them through university when my dear uncle passed away suddenly. I only have great memories of my uncle Bobby and aunt Leslie.
when they are gone?
What? You miss your parents? You are not a child anymore - why are you such a baby?
These words may seem common - they may be spoken in earnest, questioning the independance of an individual. Maybe it's a gentle hint for us to grow up and not be so sentimental.
Or are people getting so used to being alone and withdrawn that they have forgotten the warmth and comfort of family life? Was home so unhappy and dull that they want to forget their families?
Which is which?
Do we all still have childhood memories? Happy ones? Sad ones? Only you will know.
Forgive and Let Go of the Past
I guess most of us have a mixture of both, and maybe a bitter sweet relationship with our parents. That's life. We make mistakes all the time, even parents and we will do too as parents ourselves. Live and let live - its alright to still remember old wounds but its better to learn from them. Forgive, maybe we still cannot forget though we sometimes rather prefer to block out every hurt and disappointment of the past.
Jazakallahu Khairan Kathiran
I thank all my friends and even people I do not know well. They showed love, support and concern for me and my family during my difficult times. I received nothing but kind words and even monetary support to pay for the expenses of hospitalization etc. They did not have to do that but they all came even at last minute notice.
Those I could not inform on time apologised for not being there for me. I did not expect anyone to go out of their way for me. I am thankful for the duaas they make for my parents.
Solat Jenazah according to the Sunnah
Many people turned up for solat jenazah of both my parents. It really touched me deeply and words cannot express my appreciation and I thank Allah SWT for giving me help and support in my moments of need. Alhamdulillah!
Losing both parents within a year
I lost my mother during Chinese New Year in 2010. Its was a bitter experience for all of us. Last month I lost my 86 year old father. I was preparing my self for this moment but it still hit me badly, making me remember I cannot be strong and tough all the time.
They were good parents and did what they could, according to their own understanding of their roles and limitations. I appreciate their sacrifices and love which were unconditional. How many people can treat you that way? At least they will not be able to say they would be willing to support and love us for life! Not husbands, wives or lovers!
Work and Obligations
I have to leave my PC to do some work outside my home. Actually I'd rather be sitting in front of my keyboard, spilling out my thoughts, spontaneously as it does lighten the burden of carrying so much grief within.
I was quite busy with work and immersed myself so I would have a quicker recovery time. Just could not write when my thoughts are so scattered, a million things to attend to.
Taking a break
Took a short trip to Singapore with my son just to take a break. I needed a different environment and different people around me to bring me back. Singapore is great where transport is concerned.
Lots of Halal Food
Discovered great halal food in Muslim areas and even in food courts. I enjoyed the fish noodle soup and soto. Good service and the prices are reasonable too. Thanks to my friend Latifah who was an energetic companion. We stayed at Marine Parade and my 'sister' Sally and her husband Kim took us for a lovely dinner at Arab Street. We also went for night sight seeing like real tourists! Actually all the worldly sights do not mean much for a passing traveller of this earthly planet. Just passing through... trying to find the right path.
Aunt Leslie
My last trip to Singapore was over 20 years ago! Miss my aunties and cousins though. I planned to visit my Aunt Leslie but have misplaced her phone no. I feel so bad - been procrastinating to inform her that both my parents have passed awayl
She would be heart broken but worse still - will I be too late! She is a cancer survivor, a beautiful lady, well in her late 60s by now. A great cook and mother, who raised her 3 children on her own and sent them through university when my dear uncle passed away suddenly. I only have great memories of my uncle Bobby and aunt Leslie.
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Who Needs a Healthy Lifestyle?
Everyone knows we need to take care of our health. The problem is we are sometimes so caught up in our work, striving real hard to get the coveted project, promotion or just trying to hit the target in our sales performance!
Late lunches, missed dinners until we get home or suppers instead of proper dinners. Sometimes we even forgot our breakfast due to work and hectic schedules.
What happens to our bodies?
What happens to our bodies when we keep pushing the limits? What happens when we have no time to have a wholesome meal. Most of us are guilty - having a hasty meal at a restaurant or stall normally means some rice or noodles with insufficient protein like meat and fish. The portion of vegetables may be just 2 thin slices of cucumber or some overcooked veggies at the nasi campur [mixed rice] counter.
Missing salad and fruits
We usually miss out on fruits or salads. Eating them freshly prepared gives us optimum antioxidants. Sometimes I think I have sacrificed too much. The extra oils and fats that may come with such foods upset our bodies. Cheap oils and microwaved food.
Many restaurants use the microwave to heat up soups and curries, gravies and even rice. Sometimes I suspect they gave us really 'dated' food that's been kept cold in the fridge.
Hard to avoid microwaved food
I have stopped using a microwave for years but I suspect I am still being served food warmed by the microwave from the back kitchen of a fancy restaurant. Why do we spend extra money to eat at a proper restaurant? To eat proper food - real food. But I do not think I had been getting that in many places.
Hidden Fats can be fatal
Eating out really add the extra kilos of fat we do not need in our bodies. Fat can accumulate in the veins. Thin people may suffer from excess fat though they look thin. Fat can be hidden. As such even thin people may be subjected to strokes and high cholesterol.
I am trying to change my diet and change my life. Everyone should do that unless they think they are really fit and do not need to worry about their health.
The young take health for granted
The young take health for granted. However with the amount of pollution, radiation and additives in our environment and food, we have to actually think about the health of our children.
Young people get older each year and before they know it they are already in their mid twenties. With accumulated intake of unhealthy food and sugary foods, their bodies too may suffer cell degeneration.
Do not be happy if we weigh lighter
Do not be happy if we lost some weight. It may be just water and muscle loss. What we are looking for is fat loss. Over exercising is not good for us, be moderate and breathe deeply for more oxygen intake.
Taking responsibility for ourselves
There are many people with chronic diseases all around us. Let us take responsibility for ourselves and be healthy for as long as possible.
Have a meaningful life
We cannot change the date that we are fated to leave this worldly life. At least we can make our life a meaningful one, seeking knowledge, doing our ibadah (worship of Allah), helping others and taking care of our health.
We forgot about ourselves!
We all know that but sometimes we do not give priority to our own lives. We plan for others but may fail to carry out the plan for ourselves.
Accept fate but try our best anyway
When we fall ill despite all our efforts at least we know we tried our best. If we neglected ourselves and become ill and helpless there will be a lot of regrets. We can only help our loved ones when we are vibrant and healthy. We do not want to end up being a burden to them because we had been too busy to care for ourselves.
Shall we all make a change from now?
Shall we all make a change from now? Let us see if there is any positive changes after a month.
Only you will know the true difference and only you will benefit most from that effort.
Not an impossible dream...
I am writing this spontaneously after meeting a friend who had been taking great care of her health. There is so much difference in her attitude. Her confidence, her vitality and her joy.
If we want what she has, it is not an impossible dream. We just need to make the first step...
Productive life
May Allah SWT guide us and help us lead a health and productive life. Let us be able to help others and not depend on others to help us. Muslims are proactive and positive.
Wishing you good health and great energy!!!!!
Late lunches, missed dinners until we get home or suppers instead of proper dinners. Sometimes we even forgot our breakfast due to work and hectic schedules.
What happens to our bodies?
What happens to our bodies when we keep pushing the limits? What happens when we have no time to have a wholesome meal. Most of us are guilty - having a hasty meal at a restaurant or stall normally means some rice or noodles with insufficient protein like meat and fish. The portion of vegetables may be just 2 thin slices of cucumber or some overcooked veggies at the nasi campur [mixed rice] counter.
Missing salad and fruits
We usually miss out on fruits or salads. Eating them freshly prepared gives us optimum antioxidants. Sometimes I think I have sacrificed too much. The extra oils and fats that may come with such foods upset our bodies. Cheap oils and microwaved food.
Many restaurants use the microwave to heat up soups and curries, gravies and even rice. Sometimes I suspect they gave us really 'dated' food that's been kept cold in the fridge.
Hard to avoid microwaved food
I have stopped using a microwave for years but I suspect I am still being served food warmed by the microwave from the back kitchen of a fancy restaurant. Why do we spend extra money to eat at a proper restaurant? To eat proper food - real food. But I do not think I had been getting that in many places.
Hidden Fats can be fatal
Eating out really add the extra kilos of fat we do not need in our bodies. Fat can accumulate in the veins. Thin people may suffer from excess fat though they look thin. Fat can be hidden. As such even thin people may be subjected to strokes and high cholesterol.
I am trying to change my diet and change my life. Everyone should do that unless they think they are really fit and do not need to worry about their health.
The young take health for granted
The young take health for granted. However with the amount of pollution, radiation and additives in our environment and food, we have to actually think about the health of our children.
Young people get older each year and before they know it they are already in their mid twenties. With accumulated intake of unhealthy food and sugary foods, their bodies too may suffer cell degeneration.
Do not be happy if we weigh lighter
Do not be happy if we lost some weight. It may be just water and muscle loss. What we are looking for is fat loss. Over exercising is not good for us, be moderate and breathe deeply for more oxygen intake.
Taking responsibility for ourselves
There are many people with chronic diseases all around us. Let us take responsibility for ourselves and be healthy for as long as possible.
Have a meaningful life
We cannot change the date that we are fated to leave this worldly life. At least we can make our life a meaningful one, seeking knowledge, doing our ibadah (worship of Allah), helping others and taking care of our health.
We forgot about ourselves!
We all know that but sometimes we do not give priority to our own lives. We plan for others but may fail to carry out the plan for ourselves.
Accept fate but try our best anyway
When we fall ill despite all our efforts at least we know we tried our best. If we neglected ourselves and become ill and helpless there will be a lot of regrets. We can only help our loved ones when we are vibrant and healthy. We do not want to end up being a burden to them because we had been too busy to care for ourselves.
Shall we all make a change from now?
Shall we all make a change from now? Let us see if there is any positive changes after a month.
Only you will know the true difference and only you will benefit most from that effort.
Not an impossible dream...
I am writing this spontaneously after meeting a friend who had been taking great care of her health. There is so much difference in her attitude. Her confidence, her vitality and her joy.
If we want what she has, it is not an impossible dream. We just need to make the first step...
Productive life
May Allah SWT guide us and help us lead a health and productive life. Let us be able to help others and not depend on others to help us. Muslims are proactive and positive.
Wishing you good health and great energy!!!!!
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